Writing about therapy, sleep, sport, work and how people change. By Daniel Esparraguera — integrative counsellor, twenty years of practice.
Writing about therapy, sleep, sport, work and how people change. New posts twice weekly.
A full diary, and an empty home.→ 15 October 2026 Is this a new you?→ 13 October 2026 Nothing's wrong. So why can't you rest?→ 8 October 2026 The one order you can't chase.→ 5 October 2026 Is this my last season, or am I just worn out?→ 1 October 2026 When the puzzle is me.→ 28 September 2026 When you're the one everyone relies on.→ 24 September 2026 Waiting for Spring, dreading Winter. Is this just how I have to be?→ 21 September 2026 On a waiting list, wondering whether to wait or do something about it?→ 17 September 2026 Is it just a lack of sleep, or sleep and something else?→ 14 September 2026 Why does everyone think I need therapy?→ 10 September 2026 Could it be this isn't your picture?→ 7 September 2026 A curious voice that says, there's one to pick.→ 3 September 2026 I'm redundant, over 50, and it's been a long time. What's next?→ 31 August 2026 Good. We have a lot of work to do.→ 27 August 2026 Bounce back, am I made of rubber? What does that have to do with my redundancy?→ 24 August 2026 Leaving the Funfair, what anxiety and the beginning of recovery could feel like→ 20 August 2026 What the AI couldn't give you→ 17 August 2026 Therapy's overdone, agreed. So why the search right now?→ 13 August 2026 When did the side hustle stop being on the side?→ 10 August 2026 You're asking what type of therapist is best for anxiety. It's a good question, with a different answer than you might expect.→ 6 August 2026 Being heard today is easier than working out what's wrong.→ 3 August 2026 Scared to start therapy? It isn't the version playing in your head.→ 30 July 2026 I'm still doing the work. I'm just not in it.→ 27 July 2026 Something doesn't feel right, and you can't say what→ 23 July 2026 You've just lost. Nobody has given you anything to do.→ 20 July 2026 Even good advice is not therapy→ 16 July 2026 You want a therapist who gets you.→ 13 July 2026